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“Trying”
If unconditional love comes from deep inside you, it doesn’t really make sense to “try” to love people unconditionally, since it kind of goes against the entire point… you can’t force yourself to love anybody, just like you can’t force yourself to stop.
On the other hand, there’s also quite a lot of thought involved in getting rid of society’s definitions of love which get ingrained in pretty much everyone’s minds from early childhood already, as well as your own insecurities and any unmet needs you may have. This is where the “trying” part comes in. So, it’s not really about trying to love unconditionally, it’s more about trying to solve your internal issues so that you become more capable of unconditional love. Everyone has some issues, so you’ll never be perfect at it, but I think humans can actually get reasonably close.
By SR
Topics: Uncategorized | 13 Comments »
March 4th, 2009 at 7:33 PM
very lovely, SR … thank you!
April 29th, 2009 at 8:51 PM
this is making me sad because it’s making me paranoid that i dont have “real love” for my boyfriend of a year and its like the most painful thing ever to wonder about!!! but why would i be so hurt if i didnt love him? ahhhh
June 7th, 2009 at 11:36 PM
I love your thoughts! very insightful.
June 11th, 2009 at 9:28 AM
Thanks for the useful info. It’s so interesting
June 22nd, 2009 at 4:32 PM
I have finally realise after all these yr’s of meeting new partner’s etc.. That in actual fact they were never love, they were,Lust, lonelyness, dependent on them and fear of them too… But now i know the person i have met i do honestly and utterly LOVE with all my heart as i just know it’s a different feeling altogether this time they’re aint lust there (but don’t get me wrong that side of thing’s is nice but it aint the reason that’s a added bonus) No fear of him i was’nt lonely (infact i was’nt looking either and that’s what they say love happen’s when u least expect it) when i met him and most deff not dependent on him and i alway’s just want him happy and if it mean’s sacrificing a little time together sometime’s as he’s tired or at work or spending time with other’s thats fine by me as i got all the time in the world with him’HE’S MY SOUL MATE’. He most deffinately aint my trophy either im proud YEAH to have him on my arm but i don’t like to show him off and brag about him. I aint with him cos he’s a trophy .. Im with him because i adore him and he make’s me laugh he’s kind honest, opionated, so beautiful his eyes are like a sky in the day with a star in i fall into them every single day i can see us in the future together through his eye’s as we grow old.. Sitting there together ~(even thou we maybe old and wrinkly) still the beauty flow’s from deep within as beauty shine’s from inside when your in love .. I also know the difference because all these year’s i alway’s felt there was something missing a piece to the jigsaw and now i know it was my love that was missing my soul mate id found him at long last all complete now and loving every single moment of it… If i was too die now id die complete as i had everything id ever wanted not money not material just pure blissfull love … HAPPYNESS ,LOVE, FRIENDSHIP WHAT MORE COULD ANYONE ASKED FOR I’VE WON THE LOTTERY ON ALL THREE HERE …XXX
June 24th, 2009 at 8:56 PM
THIS is the REAL meaning of love.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” 1 Corinthians 13:4
June 29th, 2009 at 12:14 PM
Dedicated to the one i love .. Mr christopher slater.. xxx
January 18th, 2010 at 5:37 PM
WHY CAN 2 SEPERATED PEOPLE BE IN LOVE BUT YET THE LADY IS WORRIED ABOUT HIS CHILDREN AND YET HE IS NOT ABOUT HERS, HE’S GOT THE YOUNGEST OF 14 WHY IS THAT A PROBLEM FOR HER IF SHE SAY SHE IS IN LOVE WITH HIM JUST AS MUCH.
WHY IS THAT THE PROBLEM?
January 19th, 2010 at 3:07 PM
@BOB What problem? I’m not sure what you’re talking about…
January 21st, 2010 at 9:32 PM
Thanks don’t worrie about it to hard ot explan.
January 23rd, 2010 at 12:16 AM
can you make one on loseing a “loved” one? weather its break ups death etc.
May 3rd, 2010 at 1:45 AM
I was walking around nose in the air full of love…. well I thought I was in love, when I just had a lot of love for this person. Me being a child of God I love everybody but being in love with someone is completely different. I don’t think I will ever find real love the world is on a whole different level. …
August 20th, 2010 at 1:36 PM
Why if some one hurts you do you end up loveing them more?