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Letting Go
Letting go of someone you love is one of the hardest things you can do, but it’s also very necessary. If you don’t let go, you may end up smothering them and they will want to stay away from you. If someone was always worried about you and always judging every little thing you do, and panicking over seemingly tiny things… would you want to spend more time with them or less? This counts for every kind of relationship, but seems to be a common problem among parents for some reason. I believe they call it “overprotective”. It really comes down to fear and trust. Just like you are more likely to know what’s best for you than even your closest friend, it goes both ways. Just because the person is doing something that looks like a really bad idea to you, doesn’t mean they’re making a huge mistake. It may actually be right for them. And even if it isn’t, mistakes are not the end of the world unless they’re fatal – the entire point of mistakes is to learn from them. If you keep someone from making mistakes, you are keeping them from learning… you would be holding them back. You don’t want to do that, do you?
This doesn’t mean you should never give people advice or tell them what you think, though. By all means, do so. But don’t become “obsessed” with it, or nag them about it or keep bringing it up every other day. That will just make them even less likely to want to listen to you. If you really feel a need to get a point across to someone, the best way to do it is by example. Practice what you preach. Mention it every now and then if you must. But most importantly, give them a REASON to listen to you. And respect their decisions.
By SR
Topics: Uncategorized | 16 Comments »
May 4th, 2009 at 3:59 AM
Hi, nice post. I have been pondering this issue,so thanks for posting. I’ll certainly be coming back to your blog.
May 9th, 2009 at 4:01 AM
It is true that love cannot be priscribed.
Love should be well understood by the individual person,according to me love is powerful if you give it out with passion,selflessly,willingly.
Love starts with you,if you love someon you must not keep record of the past failors but remember that it is growing every day and it must be natured.Love originates from God who created the heaven and the earth.It is important to seek wisdom from God above who never fail.
June 4th, 2009 at 9:59 PM
The feeling of “LETTING GO” ,someone is the most painful aspect in everyone’s life,especially when you love someone dearly and..when you know you are about to lose him,too.In case of boys,80% boys don’t go through this painful feeling,after breakup as compared to 80% of girls….perhaps,because of the fact that,they(boys) want to move on in life,what in their term implies ,living BINDAAS,adjusting with time….But,then,what I feel is you(girls)should not force your partner to stay with if HE wants to come out of the relation..because once you make him stay with you without his own wish,hell will knock at your door naturally,you will have a guilty feeling..you will gradually start observing that,physically he might be with you,but,then,mentally,he is somewhere else..In such a case,we should ,without any hesitation let him go..i.e.,LETTING GO..well,letting go is a nice topic to discuss..still,that much for now.
June 22nd, 2009 at 5:25 AM
What is meant when said, you must love yourself first? Is loving yourself first, someone that works out, takes care of their health and beauty? Or is it someone with fatty genes and pleases their sweetooth.
June 22nd, 2009 at 5:40 AM
Love is an addiction and people should not play head games or use them for their advantage, if a person is not loved then leave them alone. People have taken their own lifes when they realize they have been lied too. Sometimes it is lack of communication or misunderstanding. Maybe we should have a law aganist cheaters. Of course our court rooms would be crowded, but maybe crime would slow down in other areas. Our population could be less?
January 13th, 2010 at 6:56 AM
LETTING GO COULD BE ONE OF THE BEST NON-VIOLENT WEAPONS TO STEER YOU THRPOUGH THE WORLD.TRUE LET GO WOULD REQUIRE PARENTS TO MUSTER MORE COURAGE FOR THE ACT.NEVERTHELESS THE SEEMINGLY IMPOSSIBLE IS ACHIEVED.ONE FEELS AS IF HE IS DEADDICTED.
January 23rd, 2010 at 12:12 AM
i couldnt let go its like trying to take out your heart and live its to much
January 28th, 2010 at 11:20 AM
well i have been reading all these post and the topic in which we all seem to be wondering about and have come to the conclution that at the end of the day love is something different to everbody. I have just went thru a break up I did love her unconditionally i truly know what that feels like but in return she took my heart and rippied right out of my chest stomped on a bit and returned it with a smile so unless you want to get your heart ripped out there will always be guarded love and that is only for your own well being will stay in tact it is only my view but have truely let go of the idea of true love and time to just settle.
March 4th, 2010 at 11:00 AM
I have recently been threw a tragic break up and i can say that i truly did love him with all of my heart, but in return all i got was my heart broken. The pain i went threw could not be put into words, and i’ll never forget it. It was like my heart droped out of my butt fell to the ground and was stabbed repeatedly and yet it was still beating but only bariely just to endure the pain from it all. Though thats only puting it as an example. Though months later i started talking to this guy and we hit it off, we have been dating for the past 3 months and about a week ago he told me he loved me. Of coarse i was in shock and didn’t know what to say to him in return so i just walked away. Horrible way to end the conversation i’ll tell you that much. But it was then that i realized that once my heart was truly broken it’s harder for me to know love and to feel love again for another person. Hopefully my insight on this will change through time but as for now i’m just living my life.
May 15th, 2010 at 8:39 AM
I agree, letting go has been one of the hardest things ive dealt with. We didnt have a good realtionship at all(lasted 1 and a half years) which is why I ended it.. I am now with somebody new who makes me feel like ive never felt before, but i still find my self thinking about my ex, and missing him but not actually him.. maybe just his presence. I have no clue but i think it is because he was my first actual real relationship and im feeling as if i put a wall up around my heart, even though i dont want it there. Because in the end eventually it is not fair to whoever comes into my life.
May 31st, 2010 at 10:30 PM
withiut love this world itself could not exist.
so human are only characters so they must have love in each other.love creates adventrous environment 2 move 4ward & 2 hav hapy life
June 6th, 2010 at 9:37 PM
i’m having this issue im glad i googled this> i read it outloud so that my bf can hear. he agree
June 15th, 2010 at 12:42 PM
As a writer of adult romance, we all love and lose it is one of the hardest feelings to experience but not to let love in again is closing yourself off to the joys of life. Let go then move on for if it was meant to be they would be there and it just might be their gift to you for you just might find the right person in the end.
July 10th, 2010 at 1:39 AM
I have been without this guy for 5-6 months now and letting go is the hardest thing to do when you know that you love that person. I have not yet let go. I have never felt feelings for this guy then any other girl that I have dated. He loved me very much and our lovee was unexplainable. I still to this day talk to him but just as a friend. He was the first and only one to brake my heart. Everytime we talk it gets harder to not be with him every minute of the day. I am contiuing to try to talk him to bring the past back and be more than just my friend. It hurts to know that I probably am going to fail. Letting go is the hardest for me because I just can’t forget the first time we kissed. It was magic. No girl ever but butterflies in my stomach the way he did. So for those that read this. Trust me the best thing to do is to let go otherwise you will never find peace again.
July 10th, 2010 at 1:45 AM
Hey again. Letting go feels like your heart is getting stabbed and it just won’t stop. When you love someone, you know. I try every day to forget him but it kills me inside. I feel life is not worth living for without your true love. I feel like dying if I’m not with him. He was the one for me. I will always love him. I will never try to let go
July 10th, 2010 at 1:46 AM
And for those that wanna know. I am not gay. I am bisexual. That’s if my post confused you